Dear Devoted Husband,

First of all, you deserve an award—or at least a really good nap. Let’s be honest: being married to someone with ADHD is like living in a perpetual improv show, where the script involves me forgetting my keys, phone, and dignity… all before breakfast. 

Remember last week? I left the house so proud of myself: “Got my keys, phone, drink bottle!” Then, five minutes later, I was calling you in a panic because the one thing I needed was still on the kitchen table. Classic executive dysfunction at work. It’s impressive how often I leave the house fully prepared… to fail.

And then there are my endless projects. You’re so patient when I announce, “THIS is my new thing!”—be it paint by numbers, macramé, or some other Pinterest-inspired woodworking project—only for me to abandon it halfway through (but don’t worry, I’ll DEFINITELY come back to it later). Our home has practically become a museum of unfinished projects, all waiting for the day my ADHD brain decides to circle back.

ADHD Executive Dysfunction: It’s Not You, It’s My Brain

Here’s the thing: it’s not that I don’t care or that I’m not trying. It’s that my neurodivergent brain processes time, priorities, and focus in ways that don’t always make sense. Imagine a computer with 48 tabs open, half of them frozen, one playing music from an unknown source, and another endlessly buffering. That’s my ADHD brain on a good day. Planning, prioritising, and finishing things? It’s like asking a cat to play fetch—not impossible, but definitely not natural. And sometimes, when my mind gets overwhelmed with too many options, it just… stops. Think of it like buffering, but with emotions.

The Power of Support in an ADHD Relationship

And that’s where you come in.

You are my calm in the storm, my ADHD accountability partner, and my daily reminder to breathe when my brain wants to sprint in 17 directions at once. Instead of getting frustrated, you laugh with me when our living room turns into a craft project crime scene. You remind me where I left my keys (again). You never make me feel like a burden—just someone worth loving, neurodivergence and all.

Gratitude for Loving My ADHD Self

So, here’s my heartfelt ADHD love letter to you:

❤️ Thank you for embracing my chaos instead of resenting it.
❤️ Thank you for seeing the beauty in my quirks, even when they drive you a little bit crazy.
❤️ Thank you for reminding me I am worthy of love, even when my brain is off chasing imaginary squirrels.

And if nothing else, thank you for helping me find my keys every day of our life together.

With love (and a suspicious amount of glitter on the carpet),
Your Slightly Chaotic but Infinitely Grateful Wife 💖

xoxo