Dear Beautiful, Brilliant Kids,

First things first—you two are absolute legends. Not just because you’re funny, smart, and full of life, but because you put up with me… your neurodivergent mum.

Let’s be honest: having a mum with ADHD means life is never boring. Our house is a mix of love, laughter, and absolute chaos. One minute, I’m enthusiastically starting a new project, and the next, I’ve forgotten what I was doing entirely. I know you’ve both learnt by now that if I say, “Hang on, I’ll do that in a minute,” there’s about a 50/50 chance I’ll actually remember.

But I want you to know something important: none of this means I love you any less. In fact, I love you more than my forgetful brain can ever express.

ADHD Parenting: The Fun, the Chaos, and the Forgetfulness

Being your mum means the world to me, but I know my ADHD brain makes things a little different. Sometimes I forget important school events. Sometimes I get distracted mid-conversation. And sometimes, I start telling you a story and suddenly forget what I was talking about. (Wait… what was my point again?)

You’ve both learnt to remind me gently when I lose track of time. You’ve laughed with me (and occasionally at me) when I lose my cup of coffee (how did it get in the laundry?!) You’ve helped me find my phone daily, even though I swear I just had it.

But I also hope you’ve noticed the beautiful side of having a neurodivergent mum:

• We celebrate the little things, even if we get distracted halfway through.
• We get excited about random ideas and turn everyday moments into adventures.
• We make mistakes, learn from them, and never stop trying.

I know having a mum with ADHD has meant I haven’t always been the most structured or predictable parent. Sometimes, I hyperfocus on something silly, and sometimes, I completely forget important details. But please know:

💛 I am trying. Every single day, I work hard to be the best mum I can be for you.
💛 I see you. Even when my brain is overwhelmed, you are always my priority.
💛 I love you more than words. Even when I forget things, I never forget how proud I am of you.

The truth is, neurodivergence runs in families. Maybe some of the things I do feel familiar to you, too. Maybe you also struggle to stay focused, manage emotions, or keep track of time. Maybe some days, your brain feels like a web browser with 50 tabs open, just like mine.

If that’s the case, know this: you are not broken. You are not lazy. You are not ‘too much’. You are unique, creative, and capable. Whether you have ADHD or just the quirks that make you you, I will always be here to love and support you exactly as you are.

So, my wonderful children, here’s my thank-you:

🌟 Thank you for being patient when I forget things.
🌟 Thank you for laughing with me instead of getting frustrated.
🌟 Thank you for being the kind, resilient, and extraordinary humans you are.

You make my world brighter every single day. And even if my brain forgets things, I will never, ever forget how much I love you.

With love (and probably a half-drunk cup of coffee sitting somewhere),
Mum 💖

xoxo